Each morning we awake and make the decision to either get out of bed or roll over and hit the snooze (maybe to sleep the day away). If you are a single parent that decision is suddenly made for you by the cry of a baby or a new bed mate who is ready for breakfast.
We get up, stumble into the kitchen, and start the coffee or get that first sip of ice cold soda or tea that gets the juices pumping through the veins that just need five more minutes (or hours). Suddenly our bladders begin to get our attention and we move toward the bathroom, passing that mirror that is always there.
As we look into that mirror we are a little shocked at times by what we see. The gray that is expanding, the wrinkles that have appeared, the tired that shows in the eyes that are looking back at us. We hear that voice that says “Who is that?” or “You can’t do this!” or you find it asking “Can I really do this Alone?”. The answer to those statements and questions lies within each of us.
“Who is that” ~THAT IS A BEAUTIFUL PERSON WHO IS GETTING IT TOGETHER!
“You Can’t Do This!” ~ I GOT THIS, AIN’T NUTHIN` BUT A THANG!!
“Can I really do this Alone?” ~ ABSOFLIPPINLUTELY!!
You can quiet that inner voice but it takes practice, determination, and a belief in yourself when doubts come up. Tell that voice “HECK YEA I CAN DO THIS AND YOU BEST LEAVE ME ALONE!!”
We use positive reinforcement with our children, why not ourselves? When they do something good we praise them, when they doubt we build them up to give that support we know they need. Do the same for yourself, Positive Reinforcement of those things you are doing correctly does major damage to those doubts that crop up.
We tell our children “I LOVE YOU!” and we do, sometimes more than life itself. Tell yourself each and everyday.
Granted you are gonna feel a bit silly when you get started, but who cares and who is gonna see you. You are in the bathroom alone! Go for It! Look into that mirror and say: I AM A GREAT PERSON AND I AM A LOVED PERSON AND I AM A BEAUTIFUL PERSON!
Difficult to get started~but possible. Possible is all you need to get started.
When I first started this practice I took magic markers in pretty colors and would write those messages on the mirror so that when I passed them I had to read them; this started the positive thoughts which reinforced the positive mood, which in the long run benefited my children tremendously.
Here is a list of ideas for the mirror:
I AM BEAUTIFUL
I AM A CREATION OF GOD
I AM CAPABLE
I GOT THIS, AIN’T NUTHIN` BUT A THANG
I HAVE A SECRET
I BELIEVE IN ME
I AM LOVED
I AM HAPPY
I AM A GREAT PERSON
I AM A GREAT PARENT
Your list can contain any words that you or your children need to hear, read, see, believe!
Now, I do not believe that there are any chimneys reading this information so I will not blow smoke up anything and say that this is easy. It took me months of washing the mirror; growling at the mirror; crying; wondering; getting angry that it was not working for me; and many decisions that I was gonna make this work for me because I had SEEN it work for others.
It is a difficult task; but it is possible and POSSIBLE IS ALL WE NEED!
Anything worth having in your life is worth working hard to get.
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF / WORK FOR YOUR GOALS
Face the mirror and Fall in love with who is looking back! ♥
DISCLAIMER: The previous narrative is for informational purposes only. I am not a licensed anything. Just a 25+ year single parent who did the best she could with what she has and feels that sharing her life experiences will potentially help another in some small way.
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